I stopped writing down New Year's resolutions in college because I'm pretty resistant to change. However, I'm relearning how positive goal setting can be, whether I reach my goals or not. It's about a fresh perspective and a new intention.
My goals this year aren't as specific as lose twenty pounds (yes, that'd be nice) or remember to send cards on every friend's birthday (I forget to take out recycling every other week) as they are areas in my life that would benefit me and my loved ones if I focused on them more.
Gratitude: Switching out my longing for what I don't have with thankfulness with what I do.
Vulnerability: Finding that soft place to land within those friendships that are meant for it rather than pulling away when things get hard. Who is to say they aren't also moving through something hard and need me, too?
Communication: Being more intentional in responding to texts, committing to social engagements, inviting people over for casual get togethers, letting people know where things stand instead of waiting until it's all ready to share, not assuming people know things and actually talking about them. Why this is so hard for me, I'm not sure.
Paying Attention: I tell Sebastian and Ruby over and over to pay attention to what they are doing to help them avoid accidents, spills, injuries but so often my focus is split, too. Always working on setting aside my mental to do lists and fully listening and engaging with them.
I could easily keep finding things I'd like to change or improve upon and I am all for continually trying to improve one's self but I feel strongly that these four things will be plenty for now.
Have you been working on any goals for 2015?
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